Blind Spots (Think Twice #2)
Message Listening Guide
Guiding Question: What do you do when the choice is still tough?
1. Wise Counsel Helps Us See Beyond Ourselves Solomon—the wisest king who ever ruled Israel—had the most to say about the necessity of outside voices (Proverbs 11:14; 12:15). His son, Rehoboam, ignored godly counsel and listened only to those who echoed his desires, and the whole nation suffered (1 Kings 12). Insight: Who you seek counsel from matters—and whether you listen matters even more. Application: Don’t go to someone who will simply give you the answer you want; discuss your options with someone who is truly wise.
2. Wise Guides Help Us Spot Unseen Paths James describes wisdom from above as teachable and willing to consider more than one option (James 3:17). Insight: When decisions feel narrow or forced, wise counsel can help us see the paths we’re missing. Application: Ask wise people: “Can you help me think of other options I’m not seeing?”
3. Wise Guides Help Us Consider Unseen Costs Jesus teaches to count the cost of our choices—both of following and of refusing Him (Luke 14:28–33). Abigail’s wisdom helped David recognize the consequences of acting in anger, protecting him from regret and unnecessary harm (1 Samuel 25). Insight: Every choice carries a price tag, and wise guides help us see the true cost before we commit. Application: Always ask and consider: “What else could I do with this?”
The Point: Wise guides help us spot unseen paths and unseen prices.
Application: Discuss and pray through all your options—and all their costs—with wise, godly people who will help you see the whole map, not just the next step.
Connection Group Conversation Guide
Pray: Begin by sharing any prayer requests and opening your time together in prayer.
Get-to-Know-You Question: Share your name with the group and answer: What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received—and did you take it?
Opening Question: Describe a time when you were absolutely sure you were right—until someone else’s perspective changed your mind. What happened?
Review: Sunday’s message focused on how wise counsel can illuminate the hidden parts of our decision-making. Drawing from the lives of Solomon, Abigail, and the teachings of Jesus, the sermon explored how godly wisdom helps us move beyond our blind spots. Wise guides don’t just tell us what we want to hear—they help us recognize unseen paths and unseen costs so we can walk in alignment with God’s broader vision.
Discuss: Why is it often difficult to ask for help or invite others into our decisions? What holds us back from seeking wise counsel?
Discuss: What do you think is the difference between a wise guide and a supportive friend? Can someone be both?
Discuss: Who is one person in your life who regularly tells you what you need to hear, not just what you want to hear? What makes their advice trustworthy?
Discuss: The sermon referenced a Pikes Peak hiking illustration—reminding us that we often assume there’s only one way forward. Where in your life might you be thinking, “this is my only option”? What might it look like to invite God (and others) to reveal other possible paths?
Discuss: One application question from the message was: “What will I be saying ‘no’ to if I say ‘yes’ to this?” Practice this together: Bring a real or hypothetical decision to the group and talk through the opportunity costs. How does this shift your perspective?
Discuss: Is there a current decision in your life—big or small—where you need to bring in godly wisdom? What would it look like to take that step this week?
Closing Prayer: Pray that your group would become a place where wise, godly counsel flows freely—and where no one walks the road alone.